Proposal Planning: Things to help plan the perfect proposal

I was at a networking event earlier this week and I had the pleasure of an amazing conversation with a well known photographer (that my own self doubt made me think they would never give me the time of day because they are soooo successful and I’m just a newbie, working to get myself out there) and they asked me if I do proposal planning because he has had the pleasure of shooting some and that it really might be a market I should consider looking into further. Immediately I was excited. WHY HADN’T I THOUGHT OF THAT? Of course I say on my site that I plan other parties and wedding related events, but I have never talked about proposal planning. DUH!

Proposals are special. Everyone wants to hear about it- how romantic it was, where it was, was it over the top or intimate, who cried- every last detail. Over and over and over again.

There is a lot of pressures on guys (and gals) who are getting ready to pop the question. Social media has shared these over the top videos of people spending a whole year (like this video of this guy flying all over the US to ask people for permission) which now makes every person getting nervous thinking about asking someone to spend the rest of their lives together, think they NEED to impress them to get a yes (I would also like to ask: if they are not impressed and emotional when being asked sitting on the couch in your pjs, then WHY would you want to spend your life having to impress them forever?) I don’t even need to share my not so romantic-despite attempts- engagement story. It’s sad when you compare it to the overly romantic, but at the end of the day it was us in a nutshell. Still us. Still filled with love. Still said yes (never crossed my mind to say no). Any amount of romance wouldn’t have made that feeling any more or less true.

With all that being said, maybe you want to make it something special and just don’t know where to start. Here are a few helpful tips to help you get moving in the right direction. If planning is really not your thing (don’t panic, for like 95% of people it’s not), let’s chat on how I can help you create the perfect proposal.

  1. Pick a location that MEANS something to the two of you. Maybe it’s your favourite restaurant? First place you said “I love you”. First date. Your backyard. On the big screen of a sports arena. Where ever you want that is personal to you two.
  2. Think about some logistics. If you want to involve food, make sure they can’t eat the ring. If you involve a pet, make sure it’s easy to handle. If you want family and friends to be there, you will need to work out those details.
  3. Practice what you are going to say. Don’t wing it. It rarely works out well. You are nervous, filled with a LOT of emotions. You might forget what you want to say or ramble too long. Write it out. Practice it.
  4. Be prepared for somethings to not go as planned. Your partner might have had a really stressful day and is not feeling like putting on fancy clothes. They may be “hangry” and don’t care where you are going, they just want to eat. Whatever, they may protest to your plan and you will  need to roll with it and STAY CALM.
  5. Bring Kleenex. Maybe they are the crying type. Maybe you are. Either way, it’s better to be prepared.

Like I said, these are only a few things to consider. If you want help to plan your perfect proposal, I would love to help you with such a special moment.

Thanks,
Mal

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Keep Track of All Your Vendors {Free Printables}

If you are planning your own wedding, my hats off to you. You have put in a lot of time and effort to gather the right team for your big day. But do you have all he information in one place?

It can be hard to keep things organized, especially if you don’t have a binder set up. The day of your wedding is BUSY, everyone is everywhere, doing what they need to do. You are getting hair and make-up done, directing your family and wedding party, answering a million questions and worrying about everything. If you are occupied and someone needs to step in to help this printable is for you. (You SHOULD consider a planner for wedding day management– all your hard work planning needs someone to ensure it’s executed the way you intended that isn’t a family member that is equally as busy as you are- trust me I know).

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If you haven’t made it this far in your planning process and you are still in the research mode, use my Vendor Research Sheet to help you compare vendors.

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I hope this helps keep you organized, because, take it from me, organization is key for a smooth wedding day!

Thanks,
Mal

If you want to discuss how I can help your wedding day run smoothly, contact me and let’s chat!

The Benefits of an Opposite Sex Bridal Party Member

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Your wedding party should be filled with people you love and who support you. You should never include someone just because you think you have to (future in-law, family member, oldest friend, the list goes on). But when you start to narrow down who you want to include, some of your choices may be of the opposite sex. Many of us have friends of the opposite sex, and that does mean they need to stand on the side of your significant other. Guys can stand on the brides side and girls can stand on the grooms side. (Hello Carrie was the best man for Standford- Thanks Sex and the City for helping break the mold.)

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While I find this tradition already rapidly changing, I’m here to tell you it’s OK to do it and it has some pretty amazing benefits. For one, I’m all about breaking traditions and creating a wedding that reflects you. You do you girl (or guy)! It’s your day and your rules.

Here are some of the great benefits I was talking about when your wedding party has an opposite sex member:

A different perspective. Sometimes we ladies can freak out over little things when we are planning our weddings. Sometimes it takes a guy’s perspective (and not your future husbands) to settle you down. This goes the same for the groom. They can sometimes overlook or push off things that need to be dealt with and a ladies voice can help them get the things done they need to do for their big day.

A twist on traditional. I said before this is your day with your rules, so don’t dwell on the tradition that girls stand by the bride and guys by the groom. These party members also get to experience a wedding party differently. How many people can go to both bachelor and bachelorette parties?

Actually people that are most important to you supporting you. You will feel more comfortable with your closest people by your side and won’t look back with regrets. Your wedding party is there to help you plan your wedding and support you any way you need, whether you need to talk out an issue with decor, help stamp invites or just be there. Why wouldn’t you include those you love the most.

Thanks,
Mal

Need some more advice or help to plan your wedding? Let’s chat.

Real Love: Lucy & Curtis- September 9, 2016

Some clients stand out, and boy did Lucy & Curtis! They were so sweet and there love was palpable from the second I  met them at our first meeting. Working with them was a dream and their positive approach was contagious. Despite an accident that left Curtis in the hospital for weeks leading up to their wedding day (literally day of their wedding he was still in recovery and had to spend more time in a wheel chair than not), their love for each other and happiness towards their future stayed strong! It was something magical that I couldn’t have been more honoured to witness.

Lucy had thought of every detail when planning and the decor complemented their venue- Konzelmann Winery– creating the perfect rustic and personalized wedding. When I received their pictures from G3 Designs Photography, I was giddy with excitement. I knew Mike was going to deliver- and did he ever!!! Every special detail was captured in the only Mike could- with drama and precision. Looking through them brought back all the feels all over again!

 

Venue: Konzelmann Winery , Planner: Lasting Events, Photography: G3 Designs Photography, Flowers: Blossoms Flower Shop, Decor (backdrop): Boutique Linen Rentals, Ceremony: Celebrating Life , DJ: Black Creek Music,

Thanks,
Mal

Real Love: Shengnan & Nick Said “I Do”!

From the moment I met Shengnan and Nick I knew their day was going to be one for the books. The two of them together are just about the cutest you can imagine and I left every meeting with a huge smile on my face as they kept me laughing throughout the year and a half we worked together.

Shengnan knew exactly what she didn’t want and Nick stayed calm and went along with everything she decided. The Ramada Beacon Harbourside was the perfect backdrop and the incredible team that came to help make this day what it turned out to be was outstanding; from flowers to decor to music to cake, everything fit perfectly. I was so excited and honoured to be a part of their day and we couldn’t have had better weather. Everything ran just as expected and right on time (sometimes early).

When I received the images from their wedding from Josh Bellingham I knew I wouldn’t be disappointed. He captured every special moment and just knocked it out of the park.

 

Venue: Ramada Beacon Harbourside, Planner: Lasting Events, Photography: Josh Bellingham Photography, Flowers: Maple Meadow Farms, Decor: Gala Decor, Ceremony Music: Grace Notes, DJ: Sound of Harmony, Cake: Cake By Cheryl

Thanks,
Mal

Find out how I can help you with your wedding! Contact me now!

Don’t Forget About the Details {Checklist Included}

When planning your wedding sometimes it’s hard to remember all the little things you need to include, especially when you don’t plan events for a living (*clears throat- it IS what I do*). From decor to silverware, permits to sound systems and everything in between, it’s easy to forget something.

This checklist is designed to help you remember everything and ensure you haven’t forgotten and little (or big) detail. And while the last checklist I shared (You can find it here) focused solely on decor, this one covers everything from your marriage license to flowers to cake and everything else to plan the perfect wedding.

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Feeling overwhelmed? Contact me and let’s chat about how I can help you at any stage of your wedding planning journey!

Thanks,
Mal

How to Deal with Disagreements With Your Partner While Wedding Planning

Wedding planning is stressful and a lot of work (the average wedding takes 250 hours to plan). As a bride maybe you have spent your entire life to this point day dreaming of your wedding, maybe you haven’t. In those daydreams did you factor in budget, your fiance’s ideas or even your mothers? My guess is probably not.

These factors can often lead to some minor and major disagreements when planning your wedding. Here are a few tips to help you work through them without letting them consume you and ruin your experience.

  1. Talk it Out– But most importantly don’t forget to LISTEN too! No one likes to be talked at and feel like they don’t have the ability to share their side of the story. Be considerate of each other.
  2. Pay Attention– Put away your phone, turn off the TV and pay attention to each other. No distractions. They only make the fight escalate and it’s not worth it.
  3. Compromise- This day is about the TWO of you and it should reflect that. I don’t believe in the mentality of “It’s all about the Bride”. The two of you have committed to spending your lives together and your wedding should show that. Keep that in mind if your partner is fighting for something that is important to them.
  4. Take a Breather- If you feel things are getting to heated or the conversation is going in circles, take a break, go for a walk and try again when you are both calmer and had a bit of time to think it through.
  5. Focus on the Important Thing- You are getting married because you love each other and want to spend your lives together. Everything else come second.

I spend some of my time helping clients reach compromises that keep both partners happy and everything running smoothly. These are a few steps you can take before things get out of control!

Thanks,
Mal