Mind Your Manners: Tips for Toasts & Speeches

Speeches can make or break your wedding. People remember the things that are said, or not said. Here are a few tips to help make sure those giving speeches at your wedding are prepared.

  • K.I.S.S Rule– K.I.S.S. stands for Keep It Simple Stupid (there might be a nicer way of saying this but this one sticks out for me) and it means just that. If you can say your toast or speech in 2 paragraphs and get across your point and feelings then do it. Nobody wants to listen to someone for 15 minutes go on about how you grew up together, or the inside jokes you have that only you will get.
  • Be Polite– Your wedding is not a roast and those giving speeches or toasts should keep that in mind. Whereas it might be funny to throw a dig or two out there, it’s rude. This should be a time of love and support, not of embarrassment and ridicule. If you are concerned that the best man/MOH speech might not be in the best taste, speak to them before hand and let me know how you feel.
  • Timing is Everything– Regardless of when you time your speeches (between courses or all at once), any longer than a few minutes is WAY too long. Guests want to eat, get a round of drinks, go to the washroom. They don’t care or want to listen. Go back to the K.I.S.S. rule and this should be fine.
  • Not Everyone Has To Say Something– Limit the amount of people who can have a speech. Generally, the parents get to have a speech (if divorce, then each parent can give their own but if they are still married they get one) and the Maid of Honor and Best Man. Often people throw in others. but it’s not necessary.

I hope these few tips help. And like I said earlier, if you are concerned with what someone might say in a speech, address it beforehand. Tell them what you are feeling and the sentiment or kind of speeches you are hoping for and hopefully they will understand.


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